YES I Will
#yesiwill
#story by #Mr #Ajibade adebisi
#sponsored by #momentweddingsandevents #hotline #08022329915
#whatsapp #08022329915
This #article is not a #wedding #proposal, it all about the #bride and#bridesmaids,
#Congratulations! You’ve been asked to be someone’s bridesmaid and your #mission, should you choose to accept it, will it be one filled with joy,#celebration and plenty of (hopefully happy) tears! However, while being a bridesmaid is undoubtedly a special #honour, there are a few questions you really should ask before saying #yes!’
#Weddings are lots of fun but they’re lots of #work involves too – and they can be #expensive, especially for those in the #bridalparty. So, before you commit yourself to a potentially time-#consuming and#expensive#experience, it’s wise to have a #chat with the bride about her#expectations before you accept her offer.
The #role of a #bridesmaid isn’t just about putting on a #pretty #dress and standing #next to #thebride in photos. In #Ancienttimes the #concept of bridemaids sprung from #brides who would have #assistance from their maids to help them get ready on their #weddingday. In #Ancient #Romebridesmaids were chosen to help protect the bride from evil #spirits by#wearing similar clothing so that the spirits couldn’t tell who the bride was.
These days #bridesmaidsduties don’t revolve around being #securityagainst evil spirits, and instead their #duties involve tasks like helping the bride choose the #bridesmaidoutfits, helping with the #prewedding #eventssuch as the #bridalshower, and helping the bride get ready on her wedding#day.
The Maid of Honour is considered the bride’s right hand and, therefore, has slightly more responsibility than the other bridesmaids. The Maid of Honour’s duties involve helping the bride with the planning process and coordinating events in the lead up to the wedding day, as well as tending to the bride on the wedding day.
The Maid of Honour will help fix the bride’s gown and veil throughout the day and will carry her bouquet for her during the ceremony. The Maid of Honour is, traditionally, also the only bridesmaid to act as a witness of the marriage and sign the marriage certificate.
Will I have to #pay for my #dress?
That depends on the #couple #gettingmarried. While some brides would never ask their #bridesmaids to pay for their #dresses, #accessories or hair and #makeup, others feel it is more than acceptable. Costs can become an issue if the bride selects an #outfit which is very #expensive – or something the bridesmaid won’t ever wear again, as this can result in some #uncomfortable #conversations.
If you will be #expected to pay for any bridesmaid-related gear – and you won’t be able to afford it – or don’t want to spend the #money, #politely decline. It can be #awkward but it’s better than finding yourself lumped with a huge bill you can’t afford.
How much #time am I expected to #commit?
That #depends on whether you’re a #bridesmaid or a #MaidofHonour – and what the #bride needs done.
If your bride is having your #dresses made then you may be required to attend multiple fittings, some of which may require travel . Some brides may request #weekly or #monthly #gatherings with their bridesmaids, and this can be a dilemma for #bridesmaids who live far away. Your bride may also have many events leading up to the #wedding such as an #engagement #party, bridal shower and Hen’s party/weekend, or any #bridalparty activities, day trips or pre-#wedding getaways.
If you feel that you won’t have much spare time to commit then you may have to be #honest with the bride and tell her, rather than accepting the role of #bridesmaid only to then have to decline attending some of her #events or #activities. To save any #future heartache or misunderstandings it may be best to ask the bride what her #expectations are before you #commit to being her bridesmaid.
Will you be asking me to change anything about my appearance?
Some brides may request their bridesmaids to grow out their hair so they can wear their hair in an up-do, or they’ll ask bridesmaids to remove piercings and/or cover tattoos for the wedding day . In extreme cases some brides even go as far as to ask their bridesmaids to gain/lose weight, cut or colour their hair and insist they get
spray tans or certain beauty treatments for the wedding day.
Before you accept the role of bridesmaid ask the bride if there is anything she will want you to change about your appearance so you know in advance and are comfortable with her requirements. Hopefully she doesn’t
demand anything too outrageous like this particular ‘bridezilla’ , and if you aren’t comfortable with her expectations at least you have the chance to politely decline her offer before you’re locked in.
Who else is in the bridal party?
This question may not apply to everyone, especially if you are related to the bride as you will know who her nearest and dearest are and, probably, like them. However, this may be worth asking if you know the bride is friends or acquaintances with certain people you don’t feel comfortable around or you don’t get along with.
Other fantastically awkward situations could include one of the groomsmen being an ex you don’t get along with or your current partner’s ex. Whatever the case, if you feel this applies to you it’s definitely worth asking the question before you find yourself spending all of the wedding events avoiding certain people.
Do I have to say ‘yes?’
No, you don’t .
Maybe you aren’t very close with the bride and you aren’t sure why she asked you to be a bridesmaid, maybe you are very shy and don’t feel comfortable being the centre of attention at an event like a wedding, or maybe you don’t have the time or
money to dedicate to the position.
Whatever the reason, if you feel that you can’t or shouldn’t accept her offer, it is best to be very honest with her. Tell her how you feel and why you feel that way, and hopefully if she is a true friend she will understand.
While it can be a lot of work, being a bridesmaid is an honour and is lots of fun. If you’ve been asked to be a bridesmaid and you’ve asked your bride these questions, at least you know that you can happily and wholeheartedly commit yourself to the experience and create fantastic memories that you will no doubt treasure for years to come.
How to choose your bridesmaids
There are many factors that go into choosing bridesmaids. There’s friendship, family ties, sentimentality, returning the favour or even doing the right thing. And they’re all important to consider, in varying degrees.
But the big question you want to ask in making final selections is this: “Do I want these people to be the ones standing with me at the altar as I get married? And am I confident they will support me along the way.” If the answer is yes, you’re in a winner circle.
How to choose your chief bridesmaid
When it comes to choosing a , sisters and best friends are the obvious candidates. After all, you need somebody who knows you intimately, who you trust and who can also bring you back down to earth on the odd occasion you need it. Plus, they’re going to be a patient right-hand gal when wedding responsibilities add up or you get overwhelmed and need tissues, or even a hug.
As well as love and trust, time availability is an important factor to consider. When the groom isn’t free – or even when he is – you’re going to want the chief bridesmaid to join you for activities such as cake tasting or venue hunting, on top of usual responsibilities ranging from dress shopping to planning celebrations such as the bridal shower. So if one of your besties works incredibly long hours that limit her time off, she may be better as a bridesmaid.
Something else you’ll want her input on is deciding themes, colour schemes, reception decorations and more. For this reason, someone who has an eye for style and shares your taste is also a perfect choice.
Finally, if your potential chief bridesmaid has an existing relationship with the other bridesmaids, that’s wonderful too, because then she can easily direct them as needed to key dates and responsibilities such as hair and make-up trials and jewellery shopping. She’ll also ensure they’re in their best form on the big day to help make it a magical celebration which, after all, is why you have attendants in the first place.
#yesiwill
#story by #Mr #Ajibade adebisi
#sponsored by #momentweddingsandevents #hotline #08022329915
#whatsapp #08022329915
This #article is not a #wedding #proposal, it all about the #bride and#bridesmaids,
#Congratulations! You’ve been asked to be someone’s bridesmaid and your #mission, should you choose to accept it, will it be one filled with joy,#celebration and plenty of (hopefully happy) tears! However, while being a bridesmaid is undoubtedly a special #honour, there are a few questions you really should ask before saying #yes!’
#Weddings are lots of fun but they’re lots of #work involves too – and they can be #expensive, especially for those in the #bridalparty. So, before you commit yourself to a potentially time-#consuming and#expensive#experience, it’s wise to have a #chat with the bride about her#expectations before you accept her offer.
The #role of a #bridesmaid isn’t just about putting on a #pretty #dress and standing #next to #thebride in photos. In #Ancienttimes the #concept of bridemaids sprung from #brides who would have #assistance from their maids to help them get ready on their #weddingday. In #Ancient #Romebridesmaids were chosen to help protect the bride from evil #spirits by#wearing similar clothing so that the spirits couldn’t tell who the bride was.
These days #bridesmaidsduties don’t revolve around being #securityagainst evil spirits, and instead their #duties involve tasks like helping the bride choose the #bridesmaidoutfits, helping with the #prewedding #eventssuch as the #bridalshower, and helping the bride get ready on her wedding#day.
The Maid of Honour is considered the bride’s right hand and, therefore, has slightly more responsibility than the other bridesmaids. The Maid of Honour’s duties involve helping the bride with the planning process and coordinating events in the lead up to the wedding day, as well as tending to the bride on the wedding day.
The Maid of Honour will help fix the bride’s gown and veil throughout the day and will carry her bouquet for her during the ceremony. The Maid of Honour is, traditionally, also the only bridesmaid to act as a witness of the marriage and sign the marriage certificate.
Will I have to #pay for my #dress?
That depends on the #couple #gettingmarried. While some brides would never ask their #bridesmaids to pay for their #dresses, #accessories or hair and #makeup, others feel it is more than acceptable. Costs can become an issue if the bride selects an #outfit which is very #expensive – or something the bridesmaid won’t ever wear again, as this can result in some #uncomfortable #conversations.
If you will be #expected to pay for any bridesmaid-related gear – and you won’t be able to afford it – or don’t want to spend the #money, #politely decline. It can be #awkward but it’s better than finding yourself lumped with a huge bill you can’t afford.
How much #time am I expected to #commit?
That #depends on whether you’re a #bridesmaid or a #MaidofHonour – and what the #bride needs done.
If your bride is having your #dresses made then you may be required to attend multiple fittings, some of which may require travel . Some brides may request #weekly or #monthly #gatherings with their bridesmaids, and this can be a dilemma for #bridesmaids who live far away. Your bride may also have many events leading up to the #wedding such as an #engagement #party, bridal shower and Hen’s party/weekend, or any #bridalparty activities, day trips or pre-#wedding getaways.
If you feel that you won’t have much spare time to commit then you may have to be #honest with the bride and tell her, rather than accepting the role of #bridesmaid only to then have to decline attending some of her #events or #activities. To save any #future heartache or misunderstandings it may be best to ask the bride what her #expectations are before you #commit to being her bridesmaid.
Will you be asking me to change anything about my appearance?
Some brides may request their bridesmaids to grow out their hair so they can wear their hair in an up-do, or they’ll ask bridesmaids to remove piercings and/or cover tattoos for the wedding day . In extreme cases some brides even go as far as to ask their bridesmaids to gain/lose weight, cut or colour their hair and insist they get
spray tans or certain beauty treatments for the wedding day.
Before you accept the role of bridesmaid ask the bride if there is anything she will want you to change about your appearance so you know in advance and are comfortable with her requirements. Hopefully she doesn’t
demand anything too outrageous like this particular ‘bridezilla’ , and if you aren’t comfortable with her expectations at least you have the chance to politely decline her offer before you’re locked in.
Who else is in the bridal party?
This question may not apply to everyone, especially if you are related to the bride as you will know who her nearest and dearest are and, probably, like them. However, this may be worth asking if you know the bride is friends or acquaintances with certain people you don’t feel comfortable around or you don’t get along with.
Other fantastically awkward situations could include one of the groomsmen being an ex you don’t get along with or your current partner’s ex. Whatever the case, if you feel this applies to you it’s definitely worth asking the question before you find yourself spending all of the wedding events avoiding certain people.
Do I have to say ‘yes?’
No, you don’t .
Maybe you aren’t very close with the bride and you aren’t sure why she asked you to be a bridesmaid, maybe you are very shy and don’t feel comfortable being the centre of attention at an event like a wedding, or maybe you don’t have the time or
money to dedicate to the position.
Whatever the reason, if you feel that you can’t or shouldn’t accept her offer, it is best to be very honest with her. Tell her how you feel and why you feel that way, and hopefully if she is a true friend she will understand.
While it can be a lot of work, being a bridesmaid is an honour and is lots of fun. If you’ve been asked to be a bridesmaid and you’ve asked your bride these questions, at least you know that you can happily and wholeheartedly commit yourself to the experience and create fantastic memories that you will no doubt treasure for years to come.
How to choose your bridesmaids
There are many factors that go into choosing bridesmaids. There’s friendship, family ties, sentimentality, returning the favour or even doing the right thing. And they’re all important to consider, in varying degrees.
But the big question you want to ask in making final selections is this: “Do I want these people to be the ones standing with me at the altar as I get married? And am I confident they will support me along the way.” If the answer is yes, you’re in a winner circle.
How to choose your chief bridesmaid
When it comes to choosing a , sisters and best friends are the obvious candidates. After all, you need somebody who knows you intimately, who you trust and who can also bring you back down to earth on the odd occasion you need it. Plus, they’re going to be a patient right-hand gal when wedding responsibilities add up or you get overwhelmed and need tissues, or even a hug.
As well as love and trust, time availability is an important factor to consider. When the groom isn’t free – or even when he is – you’re going to want the chief bridesmaid to join you for activities such as cake tasting or venue hunting, on top of usual responsibilities ranging from dress shopping to planning celebrations such as the bridal shower. So if one of your besties works incredibly long hours that limit her time off, she may be better as a bridesmaid.
Something else you’ll want her input on is deciding themes, colour schemes, reception decorations and more. For this reason, someone who has an eye for style and shares your taste is also a perfect choice.
Finally, if your potential chief bridesmaid has an existing relationship with the other bridesmaids, that’s wonderful too, because then she can easily direct them as needed to key dates and responsibilities such as hair and make-up trials and jewellery shopping. She’ll also ensure they’re in their best form on the big day to help make it a magical celebration which, after all, is why you have attendants in the first place.
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